The Complete LGBTQIA+
Glossary of Terms

Explore The Complete LGBTQIA+ Glossary of Terms: a comprehensive source offering clear, respectful definitions and insights into gender identities, sexual orientations, cultural terminology, historical places, key figures and more. Ideal for allies and community members seeking to understand and learn about the rich diversity and history of the LGBTQIA+ community.

Disclaimer: This glossary includes a wide range of terms related to the LGBTQIA+ community, including some that may be considered derogatory or offensive by some individuals. Our aim in presenting these terms is solely educational and informative, striving to provide a comprehensive overview of the language used within and about the LGBTQIA+ community. It is important to approach this content with sensitivity and awareness of the diverse experiences and perspectives within the community. Our goal is to empower through knowledge, fostering a deeper understanding and respect for all individuals. We encourage readers to use this glossary as a tool for positive engagement and learning.

Crush

A crush refers to the person who is the object of someone's romantic attraction, typically involving feelings of admiration and desire for a romantic relationship with that individual. This term is broadly used within the LGBTQIA+ community to express romantic interest, which can be fleeting or profound, and is a common experience across various identities and orientations.

Crystal

Crystal, often referred to as crystal meth or methamphetamine in its drug form, has a complex presence within certain segments of the LGBTQIA+ community, particularly among gay and bisexual men. Its use is known for inducing feelings of heightened alertness, energy, and sexual libido, but it carries severe risks including addiction, mental health issues, and physical health deterioration. Crystal meth's impact on the LGBTQIA+ community is a subject of concern and discussion, especially in relation to its role in increasing vulnerability to HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections due to risky sexual behaviors. Efforts to address its use include harm reduction strategies, community support initiatives, and educational programs aimed at promoting health and safety within LGBTQIA+ spaces.

Cubs

Cuck

Cuck, is a term derived from "cuckold" and is used to describe a sexual fetish or kink where a person gets pleasure from their partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else. It challenges traditional monogamous expectations and explores themes of humiliation, submission, and eroticized jealousy within consensual and negotiated relationships. The term is inclusive of any gender and sexual orientation, reflecting the diversity of sexual expressions and preferences within the LGBTQIA+ spectrum. It's important to note that the practice emphasizes consent, communication, and mutual enjoyment among all parties involved.

Cultural Humility

Cultural humility is a lifelong process of self-reflection and self-critique whereby the individual not only learns about another's culture, but starts with an examination of their own beliefs and cultural identities. This concept is particularly relevant within LGBTQIA+ communities, as it emphasizes openness, understanding, and respect for a variety of experiences and identities, acknowledging the complexities of sexuality, gender, and how these intersect with race, ethnicity, religion, and social class. Cultural humility encourages individuals and communities to approach differences and similarities with a posture of learning rather than judgment, fostering inclusive environments where diverse LGBTQIA+ identities and experiences are valued and respected.

Culture

Cum

Cum Shot

Cunt

In the LGBTQIA+ context, particularly within drag and ballroom cultures, the term "cunt" is repurposed as a compliment or descriptor, signifying femininity that is exceptionally real, polished, or flawless. The usage is meant to reclaim and subvert traditional derogatory language, turning it into a term of empowerment or admiration. It often refers to the appearance or demeanor that convincingly emulates stereotypical feminine attributes, celebrating the artistry and authenticity in drag performances or gender expression.

Cunty

"Cunty" is a term derived from ballroom culture and extensively used in the drag community to describe an attitude or style that embodies a bold, high-caliber femininity or sassiness. It celebrates a fierce, unapologetic expression of femininity, often used to commend someone who exhibits exceptional elegance, poise, or attitude that aligns with traditional notions of sharp, impactful feminine allure. This term reflects a positive reclamation and empowerment, turning a traditionally derogatory word into a badge of honor within the community.

Cut

"Cut" primarily refers to a circumcised penis. This term is used within the community to distinguish between circumcised and uncircumcised men, often in the context of sexual preference or descriptive identity in dating and hookup scenarios. It serves as a straightforward descriptor within personal ads, online profiles, or conversations about sexual health and preferences.

DINK (Dual Income, No Kids)

DINK (Dual Income, No Kids) refers to a household or relationship where two working adults are partnered or married and have chosen not to have children. This term is often used within the LGBTQIA+ community to describe couples who prioritize careers, personal freedom, and disposable income over starting a family. The concept can highlight different family planning choices and financial stability, reflecting diverse lifestyle preferences within the community.

DIY

DIY ("Do It Yourself") refers to the practice among some transgender and transsexual individuals of self-administering hormone replacement therapy (HRT) without medical supervision. This approach often arises from barriers to accessing traditional healthcare channels, which may include financial constraints, discrimination, or lack of available services. While DIY HRT provides a vital means for some to begin or continue their gender transition, it also carries significant risks due to the lack of medical oversight, potential for incorrect dosing, and the possibility of adverse health effects.

DTF

DTF, an acronym standing for "Down to Fuck," is colloquially used to indicate an individual's openness or interest in engaging in sexual activity, without necessarily seeking a romantic relationship. Within the LGBTQIA+ community, as in broader contexts, DTF can be seen on dating apps and in personal advertisements where individuals are candid about their sexual desires and looking for consensual, casual sexual encounters. The term reflects the shifting attitudes towards sexuality and the importance of consent, communication, and honesty in sexual relationships. While it is used across various orientations and identities, in LGBTQIA+ spaces, DTF also underscores the community's ongoing fight for sexual liberation and the destigmatization of open discussions about sex and desire.

Daddy

"Daddy" refers to a term of affection and respect, often used to describe an older, more experienced gay or bisexual man, who possesses a nurturing and protective demeanor. It can also signify a dominant role within a relationship, particularly in the context of BDSM or age-differentiated relationships. This term transcends its literal parental connotation, embracing a broader spectrum of power dynamics, mentorship, and care. It's not exclusively confined to age or physical attributes but also to the embodiment of confidence, security, and the capacity to provide emotional support or guidance.

Daddy Issues

Daddy issues often refer to a complex dynamic where younger gay or queer individuals seek older partners for relationships that provide emotional support, stability, or financial security, sometimes due to unresolved father-child relationships or as a response to familial rejection. This term can also highlight underlying psychological or social needs within LGBTQIA+ individuals who may have experienced paternal absence, neglect, or emotional detachment during their upbringing. While sometimes used pejoratively, it's increasingly discussed in therapeutic and supportive contexts to address these deep-seated emotional challenges.

Dance Major

Darcelle XV Showpiece

Located in Portland, Oregon, Darcelle XV Showplace is an iconic nightclub and cabaret known for its drag performances and as a cultural hub for the LGBTQIA+ community. It holds the distinction of being one of the oldest continuously operating drag venues in the United States. The venue was founded by Walter Cole, better known by his stage persona Darcelle XV, who is recognized as the oldest performing drag queen. Darcelle XV Showplace has played a significant role in advocating for LGBTQIA+ rights and visibility, providing a safe and celebratory environment for the community and its allies.

Dark Blue Hanky

The dark blue hanky is part of the handkerchief code, a form of covert communication among the gay male subculture to indicate sexual preferences and roles. A dark blue hanky, when worn in the left pocket, signifies that the wearer is interested in anal sex as a top (the active partner). Conversely, when worn in the right pocket, it indicates interest in anal sex as a bottom (the passive partner). This code, while less commonly used today due to changes in social openness and the advent of digital communication, remains a part of the historical lexicon of gay culture, particularly in contexts where discretion is desired or necessary.

Dark Room

A “dark room” refers to a dimly lit or completely dark space, typically found in gay bars, clubs, or sex venues, where individuals can engage in consensual sexual activities with a degree of anonymity. These spaces have historically provided a sense of freedom and safety for people to explore their sexuality away from societal judgment and surveillance. While often associated with the gay male community, dark rooms can be inclusive of various identities and orientations, emphasizing consensual interactions and mutual respect among participants.

Day of Remembrance

The Day of Remembrance, also known as the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), is observed annually on November 20th. This day is set aside to honor and remember transgender individuals who have been murdered due to transphobia and to raise awareness of the continued violence endured by the transgender community. The observance was founded in 1999 by transgender advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith as a tribute to the memory of Rita Hester, a transgender woman who was killed in 1998. The day is marked by vigils, speeches, and events aimed at increasing visibility and support for transgender people and addressing the issues they face.

Deadname / Deadnaming

Death Drop

The Death Drop is a dramatic dance move popularized by the ballroom and voguing communities, often seen in drag performances and LGBTQIA+ dance competitions. It involves a high-energy spin culminating in a fall backwards to the ground, landing with one leg bent underneath the body and the other extended, while maintaining a poised upper body posture. This move is celebrated for its boldness and has become a symbol of flair and expressiveness within LGBTQIA+ performance art.

Demiboy

A "Demiboy" is someone who partially, but not wholly, identifies with being a boy or man, regardless of their assigned sex at birth. They may feel a connection to masculinity but do not fully encapsulate the traditional or societal definition of being male. This gender identity falls within the non-binary and transgender spectrums, representing a nuanced understanding of gender as a complex, fluid spectrum rather than a binary concept. Demiboys may or may not identify as transgender, depending on how strongly they associate with their assigned sex at birth versus their gender identity.

Demiboy Pride Flag

The Demiboy Pride Flag represents individuals who identify as demiboys, symbolizing their partial connection to male identity alongside other gender experiences that do not fully align with conventional masculinity. This flag consists of specific colors chosen to represent demiboy identity: light blue stripes, which are often associated with male gender, to signify the demiboy's connection to masculinity; gray stripes to represent the partial gender identity and the spectrum of masculinity experienced by demiboys; and a white stripe symbolizing the non-binary or genderqueer nature of their identity, acknowledging that their gender goes beyond traditional male definitions. The flag serves as a visible symbol of recognition, inclusion, and pride for demiboys within the LGBTQIA+ community and beyond, providing a sense of belonging and validation for those who identify with this gender experience.

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