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U-Haul Lesbians

U-Haul lesbians is a playful term for the stereotype that lesbian couples move in together very quickly after starting to date.

U-Haul lesbians is an affectionate, self-referential joke in lesbian and queer culture pointing to the stereotype that women who date women get serious and move in together fast. The line is widely credited to comedian Lea DeLaria, who quipped, "What does a lesbian bring on a second date? A U-Haul." The moving-truck brand became shorthand for jumping quickly into cohabitation and deep commitment. Like many community in-jokes, it plays on a real pattern some people recognize in their own relationships while gently poking fun at it. Many wear the label with pride, and it often comes up alongside other lesbian-culture terms such as lesbian bed death and processing.

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