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Bottom

Bottom refers to the person who takes the receptive role during penetrative sex, most commonly used among gay and queer men.

Bottom describes someone who prefers the receptive role during penetrative sex, most often used among men who have sex with men but also in lesbian, heterosexual, and BDSM contexts. It pairs with "top," the penetrative role, and "versatile," someone who does both. Beyond the mechanics, the words also carry connotations of personality and power dynamics, which is where phrases like "power bottom" come from. The terms are descriptions of preference, not fixed identities or rules, and many people move between roles. Bottom shaming, treating the receptive role as lesser, reflects internalized stigma rather than any real hierarchy.

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