Glossary
Dark Blue Hanky
In the gay hanky code, a dark blue handkerchief signals interest in anal sex, with the pocket it is worn in indicating the preferred role.
In the gay handkerchief code, also called flagging, a dark or navy blue hanky signals an interest in anal sex. It is one of the more widely recognized colors in the system. The pocket carries the extra meaning: worn on the left it usually indicates the penetrating or top role, and worn on the right the receptive or bottom role. The hanky code emerged in gay male communities in the United States in the 1970s as a discreet way to signal desires without saying them out loud. Color meanings were never fully standardized and varied by city and era, so most people treated a flag as an opening for conversation rather than a fixed contract.